Yes, this post is about expectations. Sometimes I really hate expectations. But, let’s face it, we all have them.
Last year was apparently for me to learn about my own expectations on others. It wasn’t a painful lesson, but an enlightening lesson all the same. I think that my past has given me an unrealistic view on expectations. This year, thankfully, I had a helpful realization.
I am apparently a little or a lot type of girl when it comes to expectations. I either expect a lot out of you or little at all. As you can see, there is no real balance. If I were my friends and family, I would probably want to be on the little side, especially since I know that my expectations for those I love are unusually high!
Last year, after a few months of pondering a situation that had bothered me for years, I finally understood what bothered me. The situation was regarding one of my relationships, and a very important relationship in my life, one with my mother in law.
Pause here please. I first have to say that I am one of the luckiest daughter in laws on this earth. My mother in law is a truly wonderful woman and I am blessed with having her in my life. This post is definitely not an attempt to trash her or say anything bad about her.
That said, this post is about me. It just happened that when examining a part of our relationship and the things that sometimes complicates life, I happened to figure out something that made a big difference to me in my life.
I figured out that I often place too many, high expectations on the people that I love. That was definitely a big part of the issue with her. With time differences and life making it hard to talk with her over the phone, we had a nice little email exchange about it and I rightly apologized.
I then took my new found knowledge and started examining other relationships in my life. I have to say that my new found knowledge has helped me to look at my other relationships with friends and family and see where I have held higher expectations that I probably should have and then reacted in ways that have led to further harm in the relationship. I do think that my new found knowledge will help me in the future with those relationships and in the relationships with my children.
So, 2013, here is to keeping it real and of course to personal growth!
Last year was apparently for me to learn about my own expectations on others. It wasn’t a painful lesson, but an enlightening lesson all the same. I think that my past has given me an unrealistic view on expectations. This year, thankfully, I had a helpful realization.
I am apparently a little or a lot type of girl when it comes to expectations. I either expect a lot out of you or little at all. As you can see, there is no real balance. If I were my friends and family, I would probably want to be on the little side, especially since I know that my expectations for those I love are unusually high!
Last year, after a few months of pondering a situation that had bothered me for years, I finally understood what bothered me. The situation was regarding one of my relationships, and a very important relationship in my life, one with my mother in law.
Pause here please. I first have to say that I am one of the luckiest daughter in laws on this earth. My mother in law is a truly wonderful woman and I am blessed with having her in my life. This post is definitely not an attempt to trash her or say anything bad about her.
That said, this post is about me. It just happened that when examining a part of our relationship and the things that sometimes complicates life, I happened to figure out something that made a big difference to me in my life.
I figured out that I often place too many, high expectations on the people that I love. That was definitely a big part of the issue with her. With time differences and life making it hard to talk with her over the phone, we had a nice little email exchange about it and I rightly apologized.
I then took my new found knowledge and started examining other relationships in my life. I have to say that my new found knowledge has helped me to look at my other relationships with friends and family and see where I have held higher expectations that I probably should have and then reacted in ways that have led to further harm in the relationship. I do think that my new found knowledge will help me in the future with those relationships and in the relationships with my children.
So, 2013, here is to keeping it real and of course to personal growth!
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