Life lessons, usually not a fun event. Let's face it, life lessons are rarely handed to us on a golden platter with a guidebook. If they were, it would make things so much easier. But I doubt that we would really read through the guidebook provided anyway. So, life lessons usually hurt.
We have had a lot of life lessons going around here. Some small ones and other ones not so small. In my case, mine aren't lessons per say, but I am definitely reflecting really hard on how I got to be the person that I am now by looking deeply into my past. I have been breaking the lid off of memories about my childhood, my parents divorce and sharing these painful memories with some very dear family members.
My oldest son has been handed some life lessons as well. His are a bit harder for him to swallow as they are being handed to him by someone that he does not particularly care for. I have been trying to council him to help him find the best way for him to deal with the issue that has been handed to him. I am also at the disadvantage that my advice is different from the advice that he has been given by his teacher. Thankfully, my husband agrees with me that the advice that he received from the teacher is not the right way to proceed. Hopefully, our son can find the best way to deal with this and find the best way to turn a weakness into a strength.
Another one of our sons is in the unfortunately place to have to hand a life lesson out. I admire him because he has tried his best to be a good friend and he has tried to hand this lesson out in kind ways before resorting to doing it a different way. But, after an incident this week, he decided that he had to take a little break and walk away from his friend. Because of his tender age and the scope of what is going on, it is going to take some help from the adults around him to untangle this for him. My hope now is that we can find him the space that he needs so that he can have the break that he needs to recharge his battery and do what is best for his little heart.
I am proud of him for realizing that he can no longer help anymore and that the friendship is not a positive one in his life. It is a hard thing to see and very hard for many to deal with. How often do we find ourselves in a friendship in which it is not an equal friendship, but one in which you are just the giver? I am sure that in his case it is probably a tad bit different, but I do know that he has tried very hard to deal with things to the best of his 9 year old abilities and deal with incidents in the most positive way that he can. He is my optimist.
The next few weeks will be a bit telling with these life lessons that we are all dealing with. I hope that it is something that we will all find benefit in as these situations come to a close. I wish that that guidebook did exist, I would be reading it, word for word, page by page.... either way, with out it we will still end up the better for it, no matter what kind of hurt these lesson hand my family, because in the end we still have each other.
We have had a lot of life lessons going around here. Some small ones and other ones not so small. In my case, mine aren't lessons per say, but I am definitely reflecting really hard on how I got to be the person that I am now by looking deeply into my past. I have been breaking the lid off of memories about my childhood, my parents divorce and sharing these painful memories with some very dear family members.
My oldest son has been handed some life lessons as well. His are a bit harder for him to swallow as they are being handed to him by someone that he does not particularly care for. I have been trying to council him to help him find the best way for him to deal with the issue that has been handed to him. I am also at the disadvantage that my advice is different from the advice that he has been given by his teacher. Thankfully, my husband agrees with me that the advice that he received from the teacher is not the right way to proceed. Hopefully, our son can find the best way to deal with this and find the best way to turn a weakness into a strength.
Another one of our sons is in the unfortunately place to have to hand a life lesson out. I admire him because he has tried his best to be a good friend and he has tried to hand this lesson out in kind ways before resorting to doing it a different way. But, after an incident this week, he decided that he had to take a little break and walk away from his friend. Because of his tender age and the scope of what is going on, it is going to take some help from the adults around him to untangle this for him. My hope now is that we can find him the space that he needs so that he can have the break that he needs to recharge his battery and do what is best for his little heart.
I am proud of him for realizing that he can no longer help anymore and that the friendship is not a positive one in his life. It is a hard thing to see and very hard for many to deal with. How often do we find ourselves in a friendship in which it is not an equal friendship, but one in which you are just the giver? I am sure that in his case it is probably a tad bit different, but I do know that he has tried very hard to deal with things to the best of his 9 year old abilities and deal with incidents in the most positive way that he can. He is my optimist.
The next few weeks will be a bit telling with these life lessons that we are all dealing with. I hope that it is something that we will all find benefit in as these situations come to a close. I wish that that guidebook did exist, I would be reading it, word for word, page by page.... either way, with out it we will still end up the better for it, no matter what kind of hurt these lesson hand my family, because in the end we still have each other.
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